Recent Post

August 31, 2013

Essay on Divorce Cause and Effects

Divorce Cause and Effect
Divorce is the official breakdown of the marriage.  Divorce has retained its position in the modern and ancient history of human beings as the most pressing social issue over ages. Sociologists have tended to analyze this social issue at different levels and in varying perspectives. They have come up with concreter interpretations of the issue as well as the sweeping generalizations of the society and social behavior.
There are a number of causes of divorce such as communication gap, financial instability, domestic violence or abuse, marital infidelity, sexual problems, and incompatibility.  It is probably sad to acknowledge, but divorce is now part of the year of marriage. This is not a reason to trivialize the impact of divorce on children, because there is no war more murders, for a child, as that draws the parents against each other. Divorce has the effect of reducing the feelings of security and protection provided the family with two parents.(Mudrock, 165)
More children are young, the longer the deprivation, the greater the risk. The rupture of the parents of the child requires an adaptation and a sudden redefinition of the world that causes a slowdown in its development hence a period of regression.
At any age, they show the anger sometimes trying to find a culprit. This anger can be interpreted as the externalization of a sense of rejection and helplessness. Children do not choose this separation: they suffer the decision of their parents and therefore feel left out. Anger following the shock of the announcement of the break, is a normal reaction, it can be seen as constructive.
They question their behavior, their actions past and feel responsible for disputes or their parents' decision to separate. Without understanding the "why", they conclude that it is their fault mainly to 8-9 years.
                                                   The fear of abandonment
Often the child is entrusted to the mother and thus believes he lost his father because he does not see him as often as before. As a result, he often worries about losing his mother as it because of the situation will have to work or resume their studies. In turn it will be less present to the child. Children have a strong desire, even after ten years to reconcile with their parents. They invent a number of strategies as they are the separation step unsettling and threatening. (Stanko, 243)
Especially in adolescence, there is an apparent attitude of "I-may-care attitude". Divorce can raise feelings of anxiety but in general, adolescents tend to withdraw more. He wants to step back and defend themselves from the pain of seeing the dissolution of the family. Having witnessed the difficulties in parenting, it calls into question the validity of marriage and parenthood. It is prudent not to generalize these data because no comparative study has been made and it is difficult to distinguish the reactions of the divorce of those related to the "crisis" of adolescence in general.
                                                           Loyalty conflicts
All psychologists do not agree to this concept, but they all recognize that the child can be raised to support the parent as they are  considered the most victims, the most vulnerable. This is where put in place the conditions for the appearance of conflict of loyalty. Many parents who do not resent their children can have a positive relationship with the former spouse. The child is haunted by the feeling that he will always betray one of his parents.(Thomson & Hickey, 56)

                                                 Economic consequences
Children often complain about the mother's budget cuts and looking at old financial rewards offset this disparity. This quest gets even more perplexing given the fact that some fathers in turn compensate their lack of presence by financial largesse to children. As a result of lower revenues from their mothers, they will have to change their home because of inability to buy from the former spouse. The desire for stability of place that is often impossible to afford.
All in all, it can safely be said that in recent times divorce has appeared as the most problematic issue. It can also be noted that that the effects of divorce outweigh its causes. Specifically, the victims are the children of separated parents. The adverse effects divorce can be minimized if an effective attempt is made emphasizing the increased need for affection of children in these troubled times. For parents, meeting these needs is a difficult task because they themselves are in a period of intense crisis causing sadness, guilt and confusion.

Works Cited
Mudrock, Peter George, “Social Structure” General Books LLC 2010, p.165
Stanko, Elizabeth, “Everyday Violence: how women and men experience sexual and physical danger” University of California 2009, p. 243
Thomson and Hickey, “Society in focus: An introduction to Sociology” Pearson Education Canada, 2010, p.56


Post a Comment